We give women's lives so little consideration to begin with, and basically none once she voices harm caused by a man. This assumption that we need to find a way towards forgiving men is so entrenched that therapists have badgered me to "mentalize" my abuser. It is almost like the worst thing a woman can do is somehow insert herself into the path of a man's upward trajectory to success.
The hosts of a podcast I listen to were talking about people who excuse terrible behavior on the part of the “talented”because they somehow benefit from the success of that person. In this way, abusers are able to repeat and thrive with so many people looking the other way. It’s sick.
Let's talk about forgiveness after we have treated these sexual terrorists, for the next fifty years or so, with the same custodial compassion and restraint as the state has done with its non-white citizens caught with recreational drugs.
(Also, even before the idiotic & criminal second invasion of Iraq, there were enough who denounced Bush's war on terror as a war on an abstract noun. War has always been more of a reflex than a reasoned reaction but there's one thing the patriarchy has always been deadly passive about: the continuous terror campaigns against women. Though I guess it would be too much to expect that those who denied or encouraged but always harboured these kinds of terrorists would start a war on terror, on behalf of women, against their own.)
Imagine all the "genius" that would be produced by all the women who actually are working hard and are genuinely talented and are just trying to grow in their careers. I'm not waiting for abusive men to apologize. I'm waiting for them to be transformed. There's a big difference.
We give women's lives so little consideration to begin with, and basically none once she voices harm caused by a man. This assumption that we need to find a way towards forgiving men is so entrenched that therapists have badgered me to "mentalize" my abuser. It is almost like the worst thing a woman can do is somehow insert herself into the path of a man's upward trajectory to success.
The hosts of a podcast I listen to were talking about people who excuse terrible behavior on the part of the “talented”because they somehow benefit from the success of that person. In this way, abusers are able to repeat and thrive with so many people looking the other way. It’s sick.
Amen.
Let's talk about forgiveness after we have treated these sexual terrorists, for the next fifty years or so, with the same custodial compassion and restraint as the state has done with its non-white citizens caught with recreational drugs.
(Also, even before the idiotic & criminal second invasion of Iraq, there were enough who denounced Bush's war on terror as a war on an abstract noun. War has always been more of a reflex than a reasoned reaction but there's one thing the patriarchy has always been deadly passive about: the continuous terror campaigns against women. Though I guess it would be too much to expect that those who denied or encouraged but always harboured these kinds of terrorists would start a war on terror, on behalf of women, against their own.)
Imagine all the "genius" that would be produced by all the women who actually are working hard and are genuinely talented and are just trying to grow in their careers. I'm not waiting for abusive men to apologize. I'm waiting for them to be transformed. There's a big difference.