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Subscribed. Power on Jessica. You are my hero.

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Thank you, Jessica, for all that you do.

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Thank you so much for the thoughtful lifeline today. I've spent way too much time today crying about feeling so disrespected by a nation to which I have given so much of my life in service. A female relative once asked me if I was angry that RBG hadn't stepped down earlier, to help us avoid the terrible court scheme that we have now. I confidently said "No. I won't blame a woman for the bad behavior of a man." I hope we can all be thoughtful moving forward to place the blame for this election on who deserves it: the voters that have indeed chosen the "worst man" over the best woman. We did everything we could. It was a brilliant and joyful campaign. I can only hope that the universe will find a way to balance things in the end. But in the meantime, I'm going to work hard to help raise the next generation of women and men who understand compassion, empathy, and integrity.

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I just had some liberal white guy tell me I am 'no better than Trumpy,' because I said I don't view men the same way as I did prior to last night. This MF told me to 'do better'. I am done giving men the benefit of the doubt and explaining my viewpoint.

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Thank you. I hope you are taking care of yourself as much as possible too. Very interested to know your opinion on whether or not it’s safe to get pregnant in a red state right now and if that safety will decline over the next four years. Appreciate your work and experience much!

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I shared this a lot today, I knew so many women were feeling this too. A friend in Ireland texted during the night, they were watching in disgust there. They don’t know why Americans can’t see that he’s “mental”. So I filled out new passport forms for the kids, as I’ve been meaning to, and will use some of our education savings to show them more of the world and consider studying abroad.

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Thank you for always seeing the right thing at the right time. I'm so lucky to be in community with all of your readers. The gift that you sent for buying your book actually arrive today, which is a good reminder that I am committed to this fight.

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Thank you Jessica. In this short piece you found the words I couldn’t. In my previous position I advised my school’s feminism club for 7-8 years That club fed my soul as much as these girls said I fed theirs. Some of these girls are still in my life as young women, so today I reached out; just sending love. Being able to pass this post on helped, not just me who was struggling to find words, but for these young women who look to me for guidance and wisdom, and I had neither. I’m a history teacher so I know exactly where things can go, are going to go.

I too, fear for my daughter who is 16, gay and has trans friends. I remember when I could protect my kids and shield them from some of the horrors of life. My children are both amazing, kind, and care deeply for justice. I could not be prouder. We are fighting to preserve that. Living a life where you make a difference in people’s lives and care for one another is a heck of a lot better than a life where greed and dominance thrive.

There’s an idea echoes in what Jessica has written and Kamala Harris’ beautiful concession speech that reminded me of the Ken Burns “Not for Ourselves Alone”. Those women were long dead by the time women got the vote. Sometimes the resisting in itself is the point.

We never ever give up because what other choice is there?

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I told my coworker who was upset because he voted for Harris . Just last week he was a guy who is a Dodgers fan and was gloating about their win in the World’s Series last week to me a Cubs fan, that this is what it feels to be a Cubs fan all your life and have your favorite team lose the National League Championship because of the No Lights policy at Wrigley Field. That’s how I feel. But we did win prop 139 here in AZ. That is something at least. But the battle continues. Onward. Fuck the bastids!

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Thank you for this piece Jessica. I share your grief and anger about last night. Trying to hang on to the few silver linings, such as the Missouri win. As you say, it's so hard to think about -- but I think we should rest up, take some time off, and then get ready to keep fighting. We owe it to our kids and all the people living under unjust bans now.

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1. Susan Swartz is right about setting up resources for another phase. But also needed are continuing sources of supply of abortion pills and their distribution, otherwise, the criminal elements will monopolize the distribution of the medication with the usual turf wars and higher prices. We have re-segregated ourselves into Free States and Slave States of the Union; not by slave labor in the cotton field, but by slave labor in the uterine field - followed by vaginal rape from the inside-out (forced birth-reproductive rape) rather than forced sex-sexual rape. What both kinds of rape share is the use of force to take possession, (dominance and control) of some of the victim's most intimate personal parts for the sexual or reproductive lusts of the attackers.

2. As for the Democratic (D) Party leadership, they wear blinkers. They concede issues the Republicans (R) raise without counter-attacking! Specifically, as James Carville complained about in September (and earlier?), "It's the economy, stupid!". The Rs INFLATION THRUST was never challenged by arguing as soon as Rs started screaming the issue, that Trump rode the Ds continuing low inflation recovery plan of eight years prior to COVID; he did nothing to create that which he inherited from Obama. Nor was either Trump or Biden to blame for the COVID shutdown of production and transportation so that when people emerged from COVID wanting to BUY!, there was little supply and prices zoomed (law of supply and demand). Should Trump have planned how to minimize the inflationary pressure explosion post-COVID? That would have frustrated the sellers' price gouging; thus, unacceptable to the Rs. Used car inflation?. No chips for so many thousands of new cars otherwise complete. Supply chain. So many chickens killed caused by bird flu epidemic and lost egg production? Not the fault of any president.. SUMMARY: Dumb question comparing now with four years ago; it's Cause-and-Effect, stupid! Argument has to be repeated mont-after-month, etc,. etc. Was the argument about reality EVER made by Ds? NO! Pathetic.

3. Need to make emotional arguments to men now: traditional values of men: defenders of the family, did you help create a baby girl only to have her parts possessed and ruled by grasping Rs and their favorite clergy as soon as she attains puberty - 9-13y/o? Free only when she reaches menopause ~50ish? WHAT? Etc, etc. These must always be VOLUNTARY, never coerced or forced: sex, reproduction, and version of religious imagination or belief. Self-determination, Individualism, and Liberty, the Western Enlightenment Way, forever.

4. There's so much more, but Ds strategists simply got lost in the details. Would it have made the difference? Possibly or probably.

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Thanks for this, and for this community .

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Jessica, men aren't the only ones to blame here, there are many, many women as well.

I wish everyone on the site the best of luck with the fight for choice, I will no longer be

participating. I will continue to vote for choice, but will not be following the ups and downs

of the battle. I am at the age where I will never see the right restored and honestly I am

just too tired. I no longer have empathy or sympathy for the human race (except for minors) and the pain and suffering that will be coming. All I can say is I told you so. I have a clear conscience and have no regrets.

Best of luck.

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Thank you.

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Consider this. Then remember that tech bros are as misogynistic as they come. Doing away with reproductive rights is just collateral damage.

https://www.nytimes.com/2024/11/06/technology/crypto-industry-spending-election.html?unlocked_article_code=1.X04.NfWW.LG7PlSeC8eYu&smid=url-share

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Solidarity from Canada. As women of the world we are all in this together, and we are grieving for you today. Sending you all so much love, especially you Jessica. Thank you for your voice, your wisdom, and your dedication to women's equality.

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