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Rosalind 🍁's avatar

Thank you for telling your story. I agree with you. Forgiveness is not an act, it is a process, a two-way process. It isn’t earned or deserved because time has passed or an easy “Sorry” has been uttered. Without a true confession that harm was done to another, a true contrition, remorse for the physical and mental injury suffered by the victim, and a true commitment to change behaviour, the perpetrator has not earned forgiveness. And even if this process has been satisfied, the victim still has no obligation toward the person who has wronged them. because for them the consequences may never be resolved.

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SundosJ's avatar

Abusers need to go through their own transformation. They caused the trauma. Where a person is in dealing with that trauma is their own private business. The focus on "forgiveness" is so that the abuser doesn't have to do the work, and the community can get on with it.

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