Okay so his is highly related and unrelated. The biggest asshole you knew in high school is trying to get me fired from my new job. I am his new boss and he has a known history of bullying the people who had the job before me, one of whom I still work with. All women. There is no merit and because this isn’t my first asshole I have the r…
Okay so his is highly related and unrelated. The biggest asshole you knew in high school is trying to get me fired from my new job. I am his new boss and he has a known history of bullying the people who had the job before me, one of whom I still work with. All women. There is no merit and because this isn’t my first asshole I have the receipts. I documented , time stamped and put in writing everything I do. This person is gaslighting other team members who don’t agree with him. This whole situation follows male privilege “how dare she challenge me” 101.
And even though I’m backed and I did nothing wrong except refuse to be bullied out of doing the job. An aside. I am actually a very kind empowering manager but I demand professional behavior and so the few checks this guy has had has him into high escalation mode. The details don’t matter but the pattern is the same. This guy is 21 years my junior and I have earned my expertise by kicking ass at my job and yet he feels very comfortable, again I’m his manager, telling me I’m wrong and arguing with me about the work. I never take his bait, but for fuck’s sake.
It’s all different sides of the same coin. The only thing all misogynists have is that they are men. They might skew conservative but those who call themselves liberal or progressive still can’t quite handle direction from women. It’s a well documented phenomenon but I’m still fucking pissed. Now I have to deal with this bullshit instead of the very meaningful work I do as an educational leader in a marginalized district.
Just an FYI, I experienced very little sexism in my career as a teacher. That is, until I moved into leadership. Again, different but exactly the same. I know this isn’t a support group but I could use a little validation and support from this awesome feminist community. I have to be more dispassionate at work so I really need a place hen I can scream FUCK!!!.
Document everything so you have it. Make others a part of the process (HR I mean). If it leads to termination of this guy, you should have a strong case.
When I was working, I had a series of different managers. The most knowledgeable one was a woman. It made it obvious that women had to work harder, be smarter, play a better game to get to the same place. When I became a manager, I sought out women in my group to find out their goals and help them achieve them. I'm hoping the day is coming when people are treated completely fairly without respect to their gender.
Okay so his is highly related and unrelated. The biggest asshole you knew in high school is trying to get me fired from my new job. I am his new boss and he has a known history of bullying the people who had the job before me, one of whom I still work with. All women. There is no merit and because this isn’t my first asshole I have the receipts. I documented , time stamped and put in writing everything I do. This person is gaslighting other team members who don’t agree with him. This whole situation follows male privilege “how dare she challenge me” 101.
And even though I’m backed and I did nothing wrong except refuse to be bullied out of doing the job. An aside. I am actually a very kind empowering manager but I demand professional behavior and so the few checks this guy has had has him into high escalation mode. The details don’t matter but the pattern is the same. This guy is 21 years my junior and I have earned my expertise by kicking ass at my job and yet he feels very comfortable, again I’m his manager, telling me I’m wrong and arguing with me about the work. I never take his bait, but for fuck’s sake.
It’s all different sides of the same coin. The only thing all misogynists have is that they are men. They might skew conservative but those who call themselves liberal or progressive still can’t quite handle direction from women. It’s a well documented phenomenon but I’m still fucking pissed. Now I have to deal with this bullshit instead of the very meaningful work I do as an educational leader in a marginalized district.
Just an FYI, I experienced very little sexism in my career as a teacher. That is, until I moved into leadership. Again, different but exactly the same. I know this isn’t a support group but I could use a little validation and support from this awesome feminist community. I have to be more dispassionate at work so I really need a place hen I can scream FUCK!!!.
Document everything so you have it. Make others a part of the process (HR I mean). If it leads to termination of this guy, you should have a strong case.
When I was working, I had a series of different managers. The most knowledgeable one was a woman. It made it obvious that women had to work harder, be smarter, play a better game to get to the same place. When I became a manager, I sought out women in my group to find out their goals and help them achieve them. I'm hoping the day is coming when people are treated completely fairly without respect to their gender.
As a woman who worked with (misogynist) older men, you have my sympathy. I dealt with it a lot.
When he starts arguing with you, you might mention that his job is not a democracy and he doesn't get a say in how things are run.
Or "When you're the boss, you can run things the way you want, but I'm the boss now and things will be done the way I want them done."
"Maybe you'd be happier somewhere else?"
Remember, as a boss, you usually spend 80% of your time with the 10% of the people who give you a daily headache.