What you're noticing is the crack in their logic that reveals everything.
When a teen girl is pregnant and seeking an abortion, she’s seen as reckless, immoral, incapable of decision-making. But suddenly, if there’s a husband—especially a male partner given authority over her—they twist themselves into knots to make exceptions. The same act that would be criminalized or condemned becomes tolerable, even justifiable, if it’s done under the watchful eye of a husband.
This isn’t about “protecting life” or “guarding children.” It’s about maintaining a gendered power hierarchy. A girl alone is dangerous—too free, too autonomous. But a girl under a man's control? That's order. That’s tradition. That’s palatable to the patriarchy.
They’re not confused. They’re revealed. The “protection” of youth is a smokescreen. What they actually want is control through patriarchy—with marriage as the mechanism and misogyny as the glue. The second there’s a man in the picture, even if he's 18—or 48—they’re suddenly open to “exceptions.”
Because in their view, a husband thinking for her is more acceptable than her thinking for herself.
What you're noticing is the crack in their logic that reveals everything.
When a teen girl is pregnant and seeking an abortion, she’s seen as reckless, immoral, incapable of decision-making. But suddenly, if there’s a husband—especially a male partner given authority over her—they twist themselves into knots to make exceptions. The same act that would be criminalized or condemned becomes tolerable, even justifiable, if it’s done under the watchful eye of a husband.
This isn’t about “protecting life” or “guarding children.” It’s about maintaining a gendered power hierarchy. A girl alone is dangerous—too free, too autonomous. But a girl under a man's control? That's order. That’s tradition. That’s palatable to the patriarchy.
They’re not confused. They’re revealed. The “protection” of youth is a smokescreen. What they actually want is control through patriarchy—with marriage as the mechanism and misogyny as the glue. The second there’s a man in the picture, even if he's 18—or 48—they’re suddenly open to “exceptions.”
Because in their view, a husband thinking for her is more acceptable than her thinking for herself.
Let’s call it:
This isn’t about babies.
Well said.
Thanks,
Joan