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Heather M's avatar

There are so many pervasive and toxic ideas about relationships in our culture - that relationships should be hard, that being married means being 'tied down', that all woman want to be married but men want to avoid it for as long as possible, that a man who compromises for his wife is 'under the thumb'. It's no wonder we've normalized this kind of behavior.

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Daniel (He/Him)'s avatar

Thanks for putting this so well into words! I've always been made to feel I don't belong when in the context of groups at work or conferences I refuse to make fun of my spouse. Most of the time these are mixed-gender groups and it's almost like an icebreaker. And it happens here in the UK, too. But sometimes in just being clear about refusing to play one can bring the whole game to an end. I've also started interrupting: can we please play let's make fun of our partners on our own time? I'm here for a meeting.

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