Don't F*ck Republicans
It’s not bigoted to reject a man who would erode your rights. It’s smart.
Republicans want you to know about a new “civil rights struggle” plaguing the nation: Women don’t want to fuck them. Ready the protest signs!
Over at the National Review, politics professor Eric Kaufmann complains that when 1500 women at Ivy League schools were asked if they’d date a Trump supporter, only 6 percent said yes. What Kaufmann calls a “generational earthquake” doesn’t just apply to women at elite universities: Eighty-seven percent of all women in college report being unwilling to date a Trump supporter, including 58 percent of Republican women.
Instead of coming to the straightforward conclusion that young women are understandably loathe to hang out with anyone who supports a serial rapist and unapologetic misogynist, Kaufmann believes it’s actually a sign of “political discrimination” and authoritarianism. (Dear god, some men will do anything to intellectualize rejection.)
One solution the professor suggests? “[E]quity, diversity, and inclusion (EDI) policies should place political diversity on the same footing as race, gender, and other forms of diversity.” Won’t date a conservative? You’re a bigot!
As frustrating as it is to some men, women are actually human beings with preferences and free will. We are allowed to reject you because of your political beliefs, your sense of humor, or even your shoes.
If Republicans and misogynists are concerned about being rejected, they should try not being Republicans and misogynists. Because it’s not bigoted to steer clear of someone who would erode your rights and dismiss your humanity, it’s smart.
It’s telling, for example, that Kaufmann’s argument is near-identical to the ideology of online misogynists who are furious that women have a choice about who to sleep with at all. Just as he frames women’s dating preferences as a civil rights issue, incels claim women “withholding” sex is a human rights violation. The only difference is the academic sheen and where they’re publishing.
Why would any woman be keen to have a relationship with someone who so obviously sees them as an object they’re entitled to, rather than a person?
Right now, extremist misogyny is on the rise and we’re in the midst of a massive feminist backlash: Reproductive rights are being rolled back, the gains of #MeToo are being whittled away, and there are literal misogynist mass killings inspired by beliefs that conservatives would paint as simple “differences of opinion.”
There is nothing innocuous about being a Republican.
If men on the right want to paint themselves as victims of close-minded women, they can have at it. They’ll just have to do so in a cold shower.
My favorite part of being on the dating apps is that they state right in their bios "republican" or "conservative" (among other pointed signs of misogyny). Easy to swipe left and and bypass that whole mess. I'll admit that dating on the apps sucks most of the time, but that one little silver lining means I don't have to listen to a guy spew vitriol through a beer before I make my excuses and leave.
Read Sarah Schulman’s “Conflict Is Not Abuse”.