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Jennie's avatar

We need to talk more honestly about pregnancy. In so many ways, the truth is kept from young women (and men). First, there's the pain. For my first pregnancy I had no women to tell me what to expect, so I bought about 10 books and read them all. Not ONE mentioned the word pain in the context of delivering the baby. They said there might be some "discomfort." (At least I knew they were lying to me.) My father told me I would soon forget about it. I did not!

And then there's death. If you compare maternal mortality in the United States to the most dangerous jobs, pregnancy is among the top ten most dangerous jobs in America, just behind things like working on a fishing boat, logging, roofing, ironworking, and farming. Pregnancy is way more dangerous than police work.

Everywhere I go when I drive, I see the names of men who have died in the line of service, their names attached to bridges, freeways, and other public infrastructure. We have monuments to people, mostly men, who have died in wars. (The mortality rate from pregnancy is higher than active duty service people.)

But where are the monuments to women who have died in childbirth? Why is there not a wall at every local hospital listing their names (instead of those of donors)? Who gave more, anyway?

I want a Vietnam-memorial type wall with the names of all the women who have died in the line of "duty" just in, say, the last 50 years.

How long are we going to accept the idea that giving our lives to give life doesn't count?

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Ruth ND's avatar

I am stuck trying to wrap my head around the guy who thought complications only happen in your first pregnancy. The idiotic things that people think about pregnancy and the female body are truly astounding. I can’t say this enough, but we need to talk about pregnancy. All the real-talk details. Over and over and over again. Oh and I want to throw things about the mifepristone news. These people just don’t ever stop.

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